November 28, 2007

Laughter


November 26, 2007

Anniversary

29th November marks my 4th year of marriage. Some wedding superstition mentioned that if you marry in bleak November, only joys will last, remember. Sounds like some weak attempt to just keep the words in rhyme...

Some people's ultimate goal in life is to get married. These people just don't think about what comes along with the ring, beautiful wedding gown, cake and the 'yum sengs'. They think that all is perfect once they settle down with their other half and assume that they will lead a life happily ever after.

So what's happily ever after after being married? Hate to be a wet blanket for those who are all starry eyed about marriage. Marriage is not just about the joy of having the spend the rest of your life with the one that u love and who loves you in return, but it is also about mutual respect and trust. It can be rather painful to stumble through misunderstandings and arguments, however these experiences are worthwhile when you finally learn how to respect and trust one another as a result.

So what's in it for us in our 4th year of marriage? The 4th year of marriage symbolizes the blossoming partnership of a couple. We have recently weathered through one of the most difficult storms. I hope this signals a fresh start to new beginnings and our partnership will continue to blossom through the seasons.


November 7, 2007


~ Es Shanghai


The diet program needs to start real soon. I have not lost all the weight that I put on during my pregnancy, and it seems to be a real challenge to shed these last few pounds (or rather kilos) even since I got back to work.

Exercise seems rather non-existent, and excuses not to exercise are plenty. There's a great pool in Hotel Mulia in Jakarta, however someone managed to find a reason not to bring her swim suit. As for the gym, forget it....who wants to lug track shoes and gym gear along to a business trip.

Does not help that there's always fab food everytime I travel, last night was sashimi...which does not seem so fattening, oh but did I mentioned the tempura, soba and teppanyaki? And tonight, apart from the great dessert / drink (yes, I would like to think that it was just a drink); Es Shanghai, i.e, a bandung and carnation milk on ice concoction, topped with coconut and jelly...there was great Indonesia food.

Back to the diet, I need to start a 'holistic' diet plan. Well...everyone's into this buzzword now; holistic spa treatment, holistic marketing plan, etc...may as well use it here as well.

November 5, 2007


~Jakarta City from my hotel room's window~


Arrived in Jakarta today and felt that I had to give myself a treat. Just stuffed myself with 2 large servings of Sashimi and experienced one of the best massages ever; 2 masseurs massaging me in tandem for 60 mins - all for SGD 74.00.

Realised that if I don't do things like that I will probably get really depressed soon for being away from Kyle so often. Like what mom said, "Most other girls will die for your job..." I may be 'jet setting' and chalking up the frequent flyer points, but I would prefer that the frequency can be reduced a little; I am ok with once a month...but thrice?!? It's been a little too extreme this one month; I have already travelled to Taipei twice and now Jakarta; almost had to go India as well if not for the visa issue.

Anyhow, i have mastered the skill of sleeping on planes...it just makes the dreaded flight a little easier.

November 1, 2007

Contentment


Shawn has his own bed, complete with a mattress and pillow...and I hear him sigh pretty often of late. Who ever started the idiom, 'It's a dog's life' probably never had a dog or is remotely close to being a dog lover.

Well I think the best we can provide for him in his old age is to him lots of love and hugs and not deprive him of good food...and in turn, he will give us his unconditional love and attention.

Contentment can never be in such simple terms for us humans, we are always in search for that better 'thing'...may it be a home, a job or that partner (don't even think of it when you are married ok...). Especially when it comes to human relationships, we really need to constantly remind ourselves that we should not demand perfection in the other person when we are clearly not perfect ourselves.

So what defines contentment for me? Frankly I am not sure, what I say now may not be even valid 2 years from now. However with the onset of motherhood, I have obtained greater clarity of my priorities in life. One of which is to make sure that I have the emotional capacity and maturity to bring this little person up the best that I can.

As for the level of contentment, I think that still remains a variable.